I’m not a stingy person. I’m careful of where and when I spend my money and I don’t appreciate constant over-spending on useless things. I understand sometimes you need to spend money here and there to feel good, and that’s ok.
Here in Kuwait, when you get married, you’re compensated with a social allowance in order to help provide for your family. The usual thing a husband would do is to hand over this allowance at the end of the month to his wife, plus a little extra. This would cover [some] of the expenses she would incur towards getting pampered for you – perfumes, lingerie, and other goodies she needs to maintain her beauty in her pursuit to please you (at least this is the ideal).
Daily household items, groceries, furniture, pretty much everything else is on the guy. It’s totally optional if the woman wants to contribute.
I consider myself one of the very lucky ones because my ex was understanding in this area. She never made a big deal about money and was fine with spending on the house, treating me to a weekend get away and so on. She did however mention it a few times in as nice a way as possible, but thick skull me never took the hint.
Husbands……it’s important that you be conscious about spending wisely on your wife and home. You need to be tuned to how much she’s spending and not allow her to pay for essential things. If she still does, then find a way to repay her. By no means should you pull out your wallet and start counting money, unless she’s specifically asked for it. If you’re like me and have/had an understanding wife, she wouldn’t allow herself to take it anyway. You should then buy her a thoughtful gift, flowers, surprise her with an exciting travel getaway, a romantic dinner – or something along those lines.
I failed to do all these things and, worst of all, I failed to recognise the opportunities to recover the situation. This doesn’t mean I never payed for anything. On the contrary, I still pay for all the expensive things and now, learning from my mistake, I pay for all the small stuff too. You see I have this idea that if I can control spending now on a lot of small inexpensive needless things – which we know eat away at your budget more than the infrequent expensive things -then I’d have enough money to build our dream home. The dream home to me is one of the major goals to achieve.